A few weeks ago, Oprah’s OWN Network premiered a show call “Don’t Tell the Bride.” It’s a spinoff of a UK based tv show of the same title. The premier episode featured a Dallas wedding, which ended up being held at Cityplace, so of course I had to watch it!
The show works like this: are you ready? Each episode features an engaged couple ready to get married, but have not started planning their wedding. The groom is given $25,000 and three weeks to plan the big day, and the BRIDE is completely hidden from the plans. She does not find out until wedding day what her groom has planned for the day. I’m talking everything: bridal gown, florals, venue, bridesmaids dress, cake.
Now, I think this idea is cute, and I enjoyed watching the first episode (I still need to watch the 2 or 3 episodes that have aired since then). However, I am not sure I think the concept is realistic, and I’ll tell you why:
1. Bride not involved in the wedding plans???? Cute idea, but that will be extremely tough, especially for a Dallas bride. Am I right? Picking out the details of the wedding often times is part of what the bride loves about the wedding, picking out the dresses, the details, the venue - brides DEFINITELY want to be involved in the planning!
2. The show overall show gives an unrealistic view of the time and complexity involved in planning a wedding. Planning a wedding is alot of work and takes alot of time. Even for us professional wedding planners, 3 weeks is a short time to plan a wedding, but it is doable due to our expertise, knowledge, contact base, etc. If you place a groom who has never planned a wedding, emotionally invested in his own day, in that situation, it would be much more of a stressful challenge.
My overall thought of the show: The show is cute for entertainment and even for getting some inspirational ideas to incorporate in your own big day. Just realize that planning is ALOT more involved than the show reveals.
Have you seen this show? What are your thoughts about a groom planning the entire wedding? I’d love to hear your comments!